Gotta love diamonds, they’re so blingy and beautiful and diamonds are forever but it was a morganite engagement ring that stole my heart.
I’ve always known that I wanted a coloured gem stone – a juicy jewel that’s a bit different, to show the world I was betrothed. When after 13 years Chris and I finally decided we wanted to get hitched ( late bloomers OK) it was time to chose a ring. Oh my gosh it was so hard.
I suspected that I wanted a morganite rose gold ring, having first seen one on the finger of a blogger I was semi-obsessed with a while back.
A very short history of morganite
After a bit of online research, I discovered that the stone is from the same beryl family as the emerald and was named by Tiffanys, after the financier JP Morgan. At the time of the stone’s discovery, he was their biggest customer and a lover/collector of beautiful gems. He was a good guy and regularly gifted his sparkling stones to the American Museum of Natural History in New York and to the Museum of Natural History in Paris.
I liked its history and was also taken with the fact that it’s a lurve stone, said to help inspire and maintain love. Seems relevant for an engagement ring, non?
Where to find a morganite ring
There weren’t a whole heap of morganite rings to be found locally apart from in a couple of high street jewellery shops. Online they looked beautiful but when I went in store they were pale and sad, on my finger they felt light and a bit cheap – even the more expensive ones.
I then went down the vintage route and must have drooled over thousands of vintage rings online but I wasn’t sure how they’d look in real life and whether they’d be good everyday bling. Beautiful cocktail rings and glistening emeralds certainly made my heart sing but not loudly enough. I wanted morganite!
On the recommendation of someone wise, I typed ‘rose gold morganite ring’ into Etsy and what do you know, lots of lovely rings appeared, designed by small jewellery makers, not big high street giants.
Getting your own morganite ring designed
Previously when I heard about people getting their own rings designed I assumed that it was something that Beyonce or people working ‘in the city,’ would do. I thought it was a really involved process, where you’d have to sketch your ring and visit the jewellers and it would be a big faff.
I found a designer called Karen Johnson Design, who makes bespoke precious and semi precious jewellery and used to make jewellery for Liberty of London and Barneys, wouldn’t ya know. All of her jewellery is gorgeous and totally my vibe. I like my jewels sizeable and my rings a little chunky – but not too large for my child like digits.
Karen had a ring on her website that was the right shape but wrong stone and colour so I sent her a message saying what I was after. I wanted my morganite quite big, properly pink, with a rose gold band and I also wanted a wedding band that would fit nicely with it.
Luckily, someone else with fabulous taste had already requested pretty much the same thing ( we’re all just sheep really) and so she sent me a photo of that creation. It was perfect.I gave her my ring size and she went off to find my bling and do her thing.
A few weeks later on Christmas Eve, after child like levels of excitement that had me rooting through the house for its hiding place, Chris got down on one knee and gave me my beautiful engagement ring ( as the brilliant Peter Gabrielle song Solsbury hill was blaring from the radio). We then popped the matching pink champagne, obvs, while I glared at my perfectly manicured hand for hours.
A few tips if you decide on a morganite
Don’t go too cheap
The cheaper high street morganites that I saw looked, well, really cheap, and so while a morganite can be a lower cost alternative to a diamond be careful about how low you go. Having read every online thread written about morganites, people who paid too little were unimpressed and switched for slightly more expensive morganite instead. I expect you get more bang for your buck with designers on places like Etsy.
See your morganite in the flesh
The rings I saw on the high street were the saddest morganites that I ever did see. There’s various tones, some more peachy and some more pink. Remember that the online ones are not always what they look like IRL so getting a designer to hunt out your gem might the best way to go.
Keep your morganite clean
Morganites aren’t as tough as diamonds, few things are. Some people say that they’re more of a dress ring and not for everyday use but others say that’s a load of bollocks – ah the joy of confusing research on the internet. I try and be careful with mine but don’t want to be too precious.
At first, I continued to live life quite hard, shoving my hands in plant pots, slathering on fake tan, bleaching everything in sight, all while wearing my ring, but having learnt more about the stone I’m more careful now and take it off before baths, applying lotions and heavy cleaning.
Speaking of which, give her a clean. Oil and grease build up can make your sparkly morganite cloudy so pop her in some warm soapy water, give her a light scrub with a kids toothbrush and blow dry to get that bling back. I’m doing this about once a week or two as I only discovered it five months in and get lots of satisfaction from making her sparkle again, plus it only takes a couple of minutes.
Don’t take any coloured stones into the pool
Not just one for beautiful morganites, the harsh chemicals in swimming pools and hot tubs can damage coloured stones, so leave them locked away on dry land while you float around on an inflatable pizza slice.
Enjoy your ring!
For many years I was never that bothered about getting married, until I was, but being engaged rocks and I suspect I’d be just as happy whatever the ring.. but morganite helps.
Here’s to pink bling bitches! xxxx